- Understand the bullying situation from your child as well as his or her teachers. Keep in mind that your child might try to deny or minimize his or her wrong – doings.
- Encourage your child to own up to his or her bullying behavior by reassuring and support him or her in changing to a better person.
- Make it clear to your child that you will not tolerate such behavior and discuss with your child the negative impact bullying has on the victims.
- If your child has considered their behavior as play, discuss with them that what they consider as play has hurt someone.
- Tell your child what behavior you expect of him or her.
- A consequence is useful to let your child know that his or her behavior is unacceptable such as removing certain privileges or a reflection time about their bullying act.
- Increase your supervision of your child’s activities and whereabouts, and who he or she is associating with. Spend time with the child, and set reasonable rules for his or her activities and curfews.
- Co-operate with the school in their efforts to deal with your child’s bullying behavior. Frequent communication with teachers and/or administrators is important to find out how your child is doing in changing his or her behavior.
- Praise the efforts your child makes towards non – violent and responsible behavior, as well as for following home and school rules.
- Pay attention to other good behaviors in your child and encourage more of those. Help your child realize that he or she is not bad at all.
- If the child is viewing violent media such as television shows, cartoon, online games, this may increase violent and aggressive behavior. Change family and child’s viewing and playing patterns to non – violent ones.
- Be a good model of non – harmful behavior to others. Children learn a lot from observing their parents.
- Make sure that your child is not seeing violence between members of his or her family. Modeling of aggressive behavior at home can lead to violence by your child against others at school at later life.
- Seek help from a counselor, social worker, or children’s mental health center in the community if you would like support in helping your child stop his or her bullying behavior.