Suffer NO MORE!
Victims of bullying usually feel rejected, sad, angry, helpless and afraid. The truth is that nobody has the right to bully and nobody needs to go through all the pain associated with bullying.
Who are the victims?
There are a number of people who could be vulnerable to bullying. In general, someone who is different from the majority in certain ways, and as a result stands out among everyone else often gets the treatment. Someone who:
- Is a new kid on the block – new in school
- Is among the youngest in the school – often smaller and insecure
- Is fat or thin, short or tall
- Has acne or other skin conditions
- Has superficial physical attributes that are different from others like big nose or droopy eyes
- Has physical and/or mental disabilities like autism
- Has been traumatized previously
- Is shy, reserved, timid or quiet
- Is submissive – usually lacks confidence and does things to please people
- Has behaviors others find annoying Is poor or rich
Has a different race, ethnicity or religion that is seen as inferior by the bully.
Has gender or sexual orientation which is seen as inferior by the bully
However, in some cases, bullying can happen to anyone who is simply at the wrong place at the wrong time – the bully just wants to vent his/her anger/aggression on someone then and there.
What can victims do to help themselves?
- Walk away
- Run away
- Avoid the bully
- Stay near an adult – for example, sit near the bus driver in the school bus
- Stick to your friends. Bullies hardly pick on persons who are surrounded by many friends
- Tell an adult, parent, teacher, counsellor, principal
- Ask a witness to report the bullying to the adult
- Talk to a peer mediator
- Talk to a friend
- Get an older brother or sister to help you
- Stand up for yourself: Firmly say “Stop that!”
– Be FIRM, but NOT MEAN.
– Be polite when you stand up for yourself (do not use vulgarities or unpleasant tone of voice).
– Surprise the bully by laughing it off or agreeing with them – when you do the unexpected, you’re in control.
– If you feel very angry at the bully, calm your anger before talking. If it is not possible, choose to walk away for the moment.
– Sometimes in a fit of anger victims of bullying have hurt bullies quite badly and got into trouble themselves.
Do the right thing that will help you!