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Responding to Bullying

Are you bullied? You have the right to feel safe!

• Tell the one who bullies that you don’t like the way he/she treats you and ask him/her to stop
• Walk away from the person who is hurting you
• Ask a trusted adult for help
• Make friends with others and maintain good friendship with others

Have you seen someone being bullied? You can help as an Active Bystander, Upstander!

• Firmly ask the one who bullies to stop
• Don’t just stand and watch or join in
• Be a friend to the person being bullied
• Tell a trusted adult about what you have seen/heard

Do you bully others? Bullying hurts. It’s important that you stop and change.

• Stop your behaviour
• Try to understand how your actions make others feel
• Apologise or at least be pleasant to those people you used to bully
• Ask a trusted adult to help you change your behaviour
• If you usually hang out with a group of people who the one who bullies others, get away from them and find new friends

Responding to Bullying on Social Media

Facebook

• If you don’t like a story that appears in your Feed, you can select “hide it”.
• If you’re not happy with a post you’re tagged in, you can select “remove the tag”.
• If you want a post removed from Facebook, you can ask the person who posted it to remove it. Alternatively, you can report directly to Facebook.
• If someone on Facebook upsets you, you can unfriend or block the person.

Instagram

If you see a video on Instagram that shows bullying, you can report it through the app or online:
• Select the three dots in the top right corner
• Select “report”
• Select your reason for reporting from the list given.

Twitter

To report an abusive Tweet:
• Select the tweet by clicking on it
• Select the three dots in the top right corner
• Select “report”
• Select your reason for reporting from the list given.

YouTube

To report, you would need to have a YouTube account.
To report by mobile:
• Select the video you would like to report
• Select the three vertical dots at the right corner of the video and select “report”
• Select why you are reporting the video
To report on a computer:
• Login to your YouTube account
• Select the three horizontal dots at the right corner of the video and select “report”
• Select why you are reporting the video

Do the “High 5”, 5 simple steps in managing bullying

It is a 5-step problem solving strategy that can be used in the classroom, in the playground and in perceived bullying incidents.
These steps can build self-esteem and empower a person to manage bullying

Ignore

• Pretend you didn’t hear it
• Do not make eye contact
• Count to five in your head slowly
• Take slow deep breathes

Walk away

• Stand tall, head up high
• Look confident
• Walk somewhere, preferably towards a congested area
• Do not look back. Walk confidently, don’t run

Report

• Walk away and tell a trusted adult
• Inform to any bystander at scene

Talk friendly

• Use a calm voice
• Maintain eye contact when talking

Talk firmly

• Use an assertive voice, slightly raised
• Tell the Aggressor to stop the negative behaviour
• State the consequences of continued bullying

How bystanders can respond

We do not need to instastory or snapchat a bullying incident.
It is not a show either. What you can do is to follow the SSA:

Stand

Stand up for the one in need
• Don’t be an audience

Speak

Speak up for the one in need
• Facilitate the one who bullies to get away from the scene
• Help the one who was bullied to get away
• Redirect the involved parties to seek help

Act

Act to provide support and act for the one in need
• Gather support
• Report the incident
• Set a good example

How to inform a trusted adult

“Cher! Cher! Bully!” will certainly get the teacher’s attention, but it will not help the teacher to manage the bullying situation. Similar to reporting a fire incident, an active bystander would need to provide the relevant information. What you can do is to follow the TALOPA:

TALOPA

Time

• When is the act of bullying happening?
“The bullying is going on right now…”

Action

• Description of the bullying act
“…they are shouting vulgarities at him…”

Location

• Where is it taking place at?
“…at the street soccer court…”

Object

• Are there any tools or objects used?
“…there is this guy holding a hockey stick…”

People

• Who is involved? Number of people? Description of identity.
“…total five of them, not sure from which school…”

Action

• What do you want the adult to do now?
“…can you please come now to stop them from bullying him?”

Preventing Bullying

The famous saying “Prevention is better than cure” will help us reduce the chances of being bullied.
Be the change, be Bully-Free.

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